Loving Adult or Wounded Self

We disengage during tense times, with a reminder internally I don’t like to be spoken to like this I am going to take a walk and not be on the opposite side of this negative energy
If someone is attacking – disengage the loving way, if you are leaving is because you are not feeling good with feelingDOP-=K]=K[=K=I= no anger and no blame and when you leave. Energetically you need to leave the negative thoughts of that person. Even sing a happy song as you walk away in your head or out loud if they can’t hear you to separate energetically and look inside and make sure you are learning about yourself and not engaging in the negative energy
When we are a loving adult you are in the moment

Controlling – Verbal command “You can’t talk to me that way I am leaving”
Controlling – Leaving to prove a point
Controlling – Saying fine I am leaving if you are treating me this way
Controlling – Pushing someone to discuss their issues and need to hear apologies and the issues in the relationship
When you are holding on to stuff you are in the past and playing victim.

My notes from the relationship course