Loving Action Versus Expectation

What do people want from others?

• Acceptance
• Attention
• Approval
• Harmony
• Money
• Listening
• Being taken care of
• Validation
• Being understood
• Unconditional love
• Spiritual Connection
• A sense of wholeness
• Partnership
• Respect
• Honesty
• Health
• Sex

How humans try to get it this from others?

• Please
• Nag
• Manipulate
• Control
• Caretaker
• Blame
• Give
• Judge
• Guild trip
• Ask
• Achieve
• Whine
• Beg
• Over Compromise
• Let your standards down
• Lie
• Not Speak Up
• Become another person
• Use Humor
• Sarcasm

Why don’t people give these things to themselves versus pushing it from others?

• Not worth it
• Can’t do it
• Won’t feel as good
• Doesn’t count if it comes from me
• Fearful
• Entitled
• Earned it
• Selfish
• Feels impossible
• I don’t know how
• I don’t have the tools
• I am too busy

The moment you want to learn to love your inner self is the day you will learn and can accomplish. Because if you are not loving yourself everything you do with other people is manipulative

The above are my notes from a relationship course I am taking