When you call someone do you call:

• When you are down
• When you need to vent
• When you need validation

Do you let your calls go to voicemail when those same people you call to vent want to call you would like to chat and about their day?

Have you ever considered the following?

• Maybe your friends need someone to listen
• Maybe your friends should get equal airtime and attention they take to listen to you and validate your issues.

A friend recently said in their household they have a rule. You can only complain if you are trying to fix the issue. This is an awesome rule and these friends who only call me when they need help, or to complain, or to vent about how someone has wronged them I am going to hold them accountable to the following.

1. What are they doing to fix it?
2. Did they let me let me catch up, get a word in?

If not will make an excuse to get off the phone. My time is not to be someone’s therapist over and over and over. My job is not to say yeah you are right, they are wrong, and be only a one-way cheerleader.  Friendships are a give and take and one needs to listen equally as much as they talk. One needs to call and say hey was thinking of you how are things? Versus only calling when they need a referral or favor or to vent about someone else who has wrong themed.

Good luck people but my doors are getting closed to one-way-friendships.