Let's be real, not everybody should be able to have a baby.  We can argue the politics of it, we can argue how wrong I am to even suggest that certain people shouldn't ever have children but we live in a world where mothers sell their daughters and politicians visit third world countries with their viagra.  So let's not pretend we don't.   Hear me out.  I once wrote a paper in college suggesting that all American citizens be on a diet that chemically kept them from conceiving.  If that sounds … [Read more...]

My manifesting list of a real partnership When I grocery shop, the other person helps me put the items on the convier belt where we payLong weekends we plan thingsWe cook togetherWe can clean a garage togetherWe are emotionally connected and can be vulnerable to each otherThey say I love you to me, just because, as I say it back just because because we love each otherWe travel, explore local places and also other placesWe don't stay in terrible hotels but onces I feel safe in when … [Read more...]

I found a stack of letters I had written to you over the last year but had never mailed. They were dusty, sealed, and sitting at the bottom a miscellaneous drawer in my kitchen. Where would I have sent them anyway? You like it that way, leaving people to rant into the darkness, unheard and without closure. My beautiful narcissist leaving a back window open… But then I thought, why would I bother to mail them at all even if I knew they could reach you? After all, hadn't you ignored every … [Read more...]

After being in not the right partnership for years I am ready for the right connection Someone who asks how my day is going, and asks what I am working on. Because they are excited for me, and care to hear about my daySomeone who is going to be a rock and support during the hard times. Someone emotionally avaliable, we can have talks about their childhood, past relationships, our relationship with warmth and openessSomeone who comes to a discussion to discuss not saying we need to discuss … [Read more...]

Good song, to remember with a good message. Sadly the singer passed away. But we can remember his message and think from somewhere he is still spreading happiness beyond just his YouTube videos. … [Read more...]